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“Where I Live” (Written In 2006) My mind is racing to write on a subject that I have had on my mind for 7 months. This blogging is such a g...

Thursday, March 4, 2010


“Where I Live” (Written In 2006)

My mind is racing to write on a subject that I have had on my mind for 7 months. This blogging is such a great way to get things off of your mind and hopefully get people thinking. Think about this whether you are on the side of right/wrong, or good/bad, or halo/horns!
People often ask “Where do you Live?” or sometimes “Where are you From”, of course those are two very different questions for some of us. Such as me.
"Where I Live" and “Where I am From” is on complete opposite ends of the spectrum. I realize that, now, after going through a life changing experience and removing those rose colored glasses that had been blinding me for 8 years. Believe me, I didn't want to take off those glasses...I wanted all to be right in my little place in this world.
“Where I Live” folks hide behind religion, charities, & what they like to call community service, but I have seen their true faces. If you were not born “Where I Live” and are not bound to the people living, working and established here, you are an outsider; an interloper. Even if you are from another southern state, yep folks, you do not have to be a "Yankee" for this to happen in “Where I Live”. You may as well be from outer space! Don't get me wrong, you can have the best of intentions and converge yourself into the small community, and at first be welcomed with open arms, above all if you have something to contribute...or rather, if you can be USED...until you do not live up to their expectations. If you give a little, they will take and take and take until there is nothing left except that YOU have let them down.
“Where I Live” is back in the 20th century and they refuse to move into the 21st century. Oh, they speak of growth & economic development, but on their "terms" and their "terms" are staying in the 20th century at any cost. “Where I Live” there are good ole' boy politics, secret back room meetings, and promotion of themselves at any consequence. “Where I Live” is filled with small-mindedness. I actually witnessed a bright shining star of a man deteriorate after being lambasted over and over again until his star was almost extinguished. I was so naive that I put myself in that exact position. I had stars in my eyes, ambitious goals and a passionate vision. "You can do it, Pam", I told myself and I did do it, at ALL COST, but, (and remember I am an interloper in “Where I Live”) the good ole' boy mentality, secret meetings, back-room politics and backstabbing got me. They will turn on you at the drop of a hat “Where I Live”.
Some call it Karma, some call it God's Vengeance; call it whatever you want...I am just thankful it is a reality. You may not be there to see it happen, but it gets me through the days when I cannot let it go.
“Where I am From” is a beautiful place, filled with beautiful people who have big hearts. A place with family and friends that care so much, even if those friends live in other places, they still find you and let you know they care. “Where I am From” is a melting pot of humanity with much less racism, nepotism, and that good ole' boy mentality for which I have so much disdain. There is more open mindedness and autonomy “Where I am From”.
“Where I am From” people KNOW me. They know my heart and my dedication to what ever I set my mind to do. They accept me for who I am. They also welcome Growth and Economic Development with "open arms" and it is evident there. Progress is vast and continues every day.
I could ramble on about “Where I am From”, but I will stop here because I know you are asking yourself and wondering "then, why don't you go back to “where you are from”? BELIEVE ME...I would if only I could, this very day I would. 
Okay, I said all of that to say this: It is very disappointing this place “Where I Live”, but (and there is always that 'but') you live and you learn and then you MOVE ON! Which is exactly what I would love to do...move on across that State Line! The song 'Sweet Home Alabama' just doesn't do it for me anymore. 
I would like to thank all of those, and you know who you are, that made me take off those rose colored glasses.... I have become a better person for it……A real person.
Update 3/4/2010: This was my very first attempt at writing almost 5 years ago! I thought I had lost this writing, but I just recently found it and am THRILLED that it is here! I wrote this in 2006 and it was written with a great amount of Passion. I feel this way even to this very day. It is a Blog that is written to make you think about the way we treat others and how others perceive and treat us. This was a personal experience and I still have strong feelings about this very subject.
Please comment, as I would love to know what you think. No matter who you are or "where you are from"...or "where you live"!

 ALL FOR LOVE...Pamela